Monday, October 12, 2009
Another Man for Women's Rights.
Because of my gender I cannot be a feminist, I can only be a "pro-feminist". If this seems a bit unfair, let's remember that fairness is a very complicated idea and one that's impossible to even identify, let alone enforce. So, for now I'm happy to be a pro-feminist.
I've been bashing the feminists for a while now, and it's time to make peace.
Having chatted with friends of mine who can vaguely be described as Feminists, and following some interesting Femblogs, I come to the realisation that you don't have to be a rabid Lefty to take an interest in Women's Rights. It sure as hell seems like that sometimes, with Feminists attacking other women who happen to be more conservative, and the assumption that to be a proper feminist you have also be against lots of other things too, like "Racism".
Last week was Feminism in London 09, and no, I did not attend. But a quick glance at the website reveals that the first workshop of the day was entitled "Racism and sexism: what are the issues for black and minority ethnic women?"
Now, you may well ask, what has Sexism to do with Racism?
Well there is only a connection if you are a leftist of some kind, because my dictionary doesn't conflate the two in any way, BUT if you are a Lefty, then the relationship is immediately obvious: If you're not white and you're not male, then you have a common enemy (i.e. the evil white male).
Furthermore, while Sexism has a very clear and obvious definition, Racism doesn't. Racism means you are against immigration, in it's British context at least. But shouldn't feminists be against immigration? That seems logical to me. Islamic and African men are not known for their tolerance towards women. Just Google "honour killings" to see what I mean, while South Africa's rape statistics will make your blood boil and quickly turn you into a "Racist" (Whatever That Means).
Ask Sweden's many victims of rape at the hands of that country's immigrant population. Norway, too, has finally admitted that it's a problem. Personally I think that every rape victim in those countries, and their families, needs to head down to parliament (the Storting is right in the heart of Oslo, people) and demand the resignation (and the balls on a platter) of every liberal, pro-immigration MP- who in my opinion are DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE for bringing these vile creatures to their shores.
I think that is a profoundly pro-feminist sentiment. But I suspect many Feminists would consider it Racist (WTM). And that is sad, actually. Immigration means importing intolerance and brutality towards women. As I pointed out here, this kind of all-activists-on-the-same-side mentality is counterproductive and in my view detrimental to women's rights.
Lest it be suspected that I believe white men to be angels when it comes to women's rights, let me state clearly that I have a realistic perspective on this. A close female friend of mine was almost raped by a white man at university in South Africa- she fought him off - another was raped by her own father, while a third was in the process of being raped by a white man in the United States, until a black homeless man rescued her. Having said that, the rape statistics from both the U.S. and South Africa show a strong racial bias (towards blacks), but that is a subject for another discussion.
For now let me just say that these issues affect men, too, just not in the same way. Having a relationship with a woman who has been abused is difficult and complicated because of the abuse she has suffering, and the resulting need to build up trust again can be a painful process for both partners. The minority of men who are abusers are animals, not men. A real man does not do these things, and that message has got to be put across strongly and forcefully to enhance and uphold women's rights.
In South Africa, among black Africans, this belief is turned on its head. Men there believe it is a woman's duty to have sex with them, and if she says no then he must put her in her place for challenging his masculinity. "Corrective Rape" is now a reality for many women in SA, see also here, particularly for lesbians, or those even suspected of being gay. Not the most enlightened bunch, we can conclude.
The belief, too, that Feminists must also be Socialists nicely conflates, albeit artificially, Patriarchy with Capitalism. This suits the Left neatly, but what might not suit Feminists is the fact that some of the world's great women are/were conservative, for example Margaret Thatcher and Ayn Rand. According to one woman I interviewed, Thatcher was "bad for women". Surely a powerful woman is a feminist icon? Not so, it seems.
So, to conclude, I am in favour of women's rights; I don't think women should be paid less than men for doing the same job. I don't think women should be kept in the kitchen, and I also don't think women who choose home life over their career should be made to feel like lesser women for it by Feminists. I don't feel threatened by successful women, and have had several as employers. I believe a system of government that treats people as individuals rather than as a collective entity can only benefit women.